Observation: Flush with Anxiety
But those shoes are sorta cute.
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The scene: There are two types of people in this world: those who admit to structuring their day around bathroom logistics, and liars.
Let’s talk about it—the unspoken calculus behind every meeting, commute, shopping trip and coffee refill: When can I go? Where will I go? Will I be alone? And the most crucial question of all: Will there be noise-covering ambient music or will I be forced to layer in a strategically-timed cough?
We’ve normalized Slack statuses for everything from “deep work” to “picking up sourdough starter,” but no one dares write: “BRB, praying for an empty stall” or “BRB, coffee kicked in.”
And oh, the stall dilemma. Nothing says “designed by someone who hates humans” like the American public restroom: inch-wide gaps, mystery fluids, and those paper-thin hiney hiders that neither hide your hiney nor your shame. Meanwhile, Europe? They give you walls. A door that touches the floor. A full-blown room where your dignity can stay intact while your intestines panic in peace
But here in the U.S.? You’re a pair of shoes, a nervous shuffle, and the deafening sound of your own betrayal echoing in porcelain.
Remote Work: The Great Equalizer (and Unclencher)
Let’s be honest: the single best part of working from home isn’t your dog, or ditching your commute, or attending meetings in pajama bottoms.
It’s the bathroom autonomy.
No stall roulette. No awkward eye contact as you both pretend you’re not waiting for the same toilet. No wondering if your boss recognizes your shoes under the divider. Just you, your private porcelain throne, and the sweet, sweet silence of dignity.
Remote work gave us freedom—from geography, from dress codes, from microwave fish in the shared kitchen. But most importantly? It gave us back our bodily privacy. And we’re not going back.
Remember the early days of WFH, when no one scheduled meetings between 12:00 and 1:00 because we all collectively respected “lunch + bowel movement buffer time”? It was an unspoken golden age. Glorious. Human. Brief.
Of course, now we’ve collapsed back into back-to-back Zooms, and the panic has simply migrated. You’re muted, camera off, speed-walking to the bathroom like it’s a high-stakes pit stop. You return three minutes later, breathless, trying to act like you were just grabbing a water/sweater/charger etc. But your mic is hot, and someone definitely heard a flush.
Back-to-Back Zooms and the Bio Break Ballet
Somewhere around Month 8 of remote work, we collectively forgot how to take a break—but our bladders (colon) did not. Suddenly every hour of the day is triple-booked, and you find yourself jumping from client call to team sync to “quick 15?” without even time to blink, let alone pee (ok poop.)
There is no phrase more vulnerable—more human—than “I just need to step away for a quick bio break.” It’s the corporate version of whispering “I have a body and it has needs.” And somehow, saying it out loud in a meeting with leadership feels more taboo than accidentally screen-sharing your therapy notes.
Let’s normalize it. Let’s embrace it. You take your bio break, Brenda.
Because we might live in a world of metrics, mute buttons, and branded virtual backgrounds—but behind every calendar block is a human being doing their best not to explode before the all-hands.
So next time you feel that flush of anxiety, remember—you’re not alone. You’re just human. And your body isn’t broken. It’s just on a schedule no calendar app can quite accommodate.
Now go. Literally.
Vibe O’ the Day: Holding it together… barely.
Part caution, part catharsis, all-too-human
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